My Life in a Nut Shell
3 surgeries for Endometriosis, countless medications, and lots of difficult years trying to conceive. We put the medical stuff on hold and decided to work on being parents instead. In July of 2000 we were blessed beyond all measure with a phone call announcing the birth of our daughter, Megan. Megan's birth mother had given birth the day before and was leaving the hospital. We had no warning that Megan was coming. At 4:29 in the afternoon we were a couple, at 4:30 we were parents. Deciding that we wanted a sibling for Megan, we looked into all our options. This time insurance covered IVF. One round and we were blessed with triplets, Abigail, Brigid, and Caroline. Did you know that there is a 70% chance of divorce in families of Higher Order Multiples? Almost two years after the triplets were born my ex-husband and I separated and eventually divorced. During that time both my Mother and Father passed away from cancer. In February of 2007 my sister came to live with us to help out. In December of 2008 she had to leave so now it is me on my own with the girls. In February 2010, Lisa passed away and finally found her own Peace.
Sunday, April 25, 2010
We are in this book. I had the chance to talk to Liza Mundy when she was writing this book. I liked the idea that she was trying to point out some of the "side effects" of what happens when assisted reproduction is not handled properly. The part she interviewed me for was the part about having triplets. I've said it before. I don't think my ex and I were adequately prepared at the beginning of the IVF process for the possibility of having multiples. We were told very vague facts at the beginning about there being less than a 1% chance of having multiples. I still say they should have every AR parent talk with a family or two about multiples so they can be prepared. No, I would not ever change having my girls. That is not what this is about. I love my girls. I know my ex loves the girls. Neither of us would change having them. It's just that when we went through the adoption process with Megan we had to go through two months of classes to prepare. So if there is that much preparation for adopting, why not for any AR procedure? If you get the chance to read this, it is really interesting. And not just because I'm in there. This should be required reading before any AR procedure. It really is better to be informed.