My Life in a Nut Shell

3 surgeries for Endometriosis, countless medications, and lots of difficult years trying to conceive. We put the medical stuff on hold and decided to work on being parents instead. In July of 2000 we were blessed beyond all measure with a phone call announcing the birth of our daughter, Megan. Megan's birth mother had given birth the day before and was leaving the hospital. We had no warning that Megan was coming. At 4:29 in the afternoon we were a couple, at 4:30 we were parents. Deciding that we wanted a sibling for Megan, we looked into all our options. This time insurance covered IVF. One round and we were blessed with triplets, Abigail, Brigid, and Caroline. Did you know that there is a 70% chance of divorce in families of Higher Order Multiples? Almost two years after the triplets were born my ex-husband and I separated and eventually divorced. During that time both my Mother and Father passed away from cancer. In February of 2007 my sister came to live with us to help out. In December of 2008 she had to leave so now it is me on my own with the girls. In February 2010, Lisa passed away and finally found her own Peace.

Monday, September 5, 2011

2 Not 1

There is this amazing man here in Louisville who started an organization called 2 Not 1.  How do I know him?  His children attend school with my girls.  The goal of his organization is to promote fatherhood and getting fathers involved with their children.  I bring this man, Shawn Gardner and his organization up because of what happened this evening.  My ex brought the girls home early.  I'm not surprised.  He does this all the time.  He can't handle more than 24-36 hours with the girls.  It's really sad.  I've tried endlessly to get him involved with the lives of his children.  With no luck.  I don't understand why he doesn't feel the need to stay involved with his children.  They are amazing young ladies!!!  And he is missing out.  So sad.  It's been over 6 years and we are still dealing with the same issues.  The girls didn't get showers all weekend.  They tell me of bugs and messes everywhere.  Yet there doesn't seem to be a thing I can do about it.  I'm frustrated because for my girls they are learning that men aren't in the picture.  Ever.  I feel Blessed for Ali's husband, Bob, and Jeremiah, my neighbor because they let my girls see what a man is supposed to be like in the lives of their children.  What will this do for my girls when they are dating?  Will they seek out men like their father?  Will they believe it's ok to be with men who behave like this?  I try all the time to point out that this isn't what men are like.  At least I hope this isn't what men are like.   He dropped them off a half hour before bedtime so then it's a flurry of showers and activity to get ready for school tomorrow.  I'm frustrated.

 I'm tired of being frustrated.

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